Do or Don't ....... yes I do..please...

Take and Give...

This phrase is quite familiar for us, and also found at our daily activity.

There is a satisfaction if you are become one of them or both of them.. :), but it is perfect to be both of them, because it is not so comfortable if you always receive things from someone and vice verse.

Human is created to be socialize, and therefore, satisfaction can be reached if you becoming a taking person and also giving person.

Visit and Visited

Once when I was single, I did not realize about this behave. I used to be egoism and like to spend my time alone at my room, watching TV, hang out alone and just calling friends and family when I just feel like to call.

Now, after married..I know how happy that we are being visited and also going to visit my family and friends.

May be when I was single and had nothing to discuss and thought that others might be disturbing if I just came and made annoying somehow.. :)

But, spending our spare time with family and friends really make us refreshing mind when we back to work.

I also understand that we need sometimes to be alone and can not be disturbed with anyone, because we need to recall deep in our mind and heart what am I going to do, what should I do and what can make me happy..

Reading partner gesture

Being sensitive is good enough to read the situation faster, sometimes our partner doesn't show much and act that he is rejected and disappointed with our saying, our act and our react. Normally, egoism will drive us to be rude and ignoring, these acts can cause irritate for someone else which is related to the cause of your act. So if you think calmly and act think-fully, so I believe that we can relieve the stress that caused of your negative behave onward.

Dear Non-Pregnant Person

Just read from someone blog...http://cisayong-girl.blogspot.com/

This is really useful information for all pregnant and non pregnant women...

Dear Non-Pregnant Person, 

I hope you find these guidelines helpful in your interactions with pregnant women as failing to follow them may result in serious physical harm. If you are thinking, surely she doesn't mean me- then you should probably read this twice:

1) The appropriate response to a couple telling you they are having a baby is 'Congratulations!' with enthusiasm. Any other response makes you an a$$.

2) Through the wonders of science, we now know that babies are made ONLY by the mother and father- not grandparents. Unless the baby is in your uterus or you are the man that helped put it there, you may not ever use the phrase 'my baby'.

3) On the same note, unless you made the baby as defined in #2, the pregnancy, birth and raising of the child are not about you. You do not have input. No one wants to hear your opinion unless they ask for it.

4) The body of a pregnant women should be treated the same as any other body. You would not randomly touch someone's stomach if they were not pregnant, nor would you inquire into the condition of their uterus, cervix or how they plan to use their breasts. Pregnancy does not remove all traces of privacy from a woman.

5) Likewise, no woman wants to hear comments on her weight- ever. A pregnant woman does not find it flattering that you think she is about is pop, must be having twins, looks swollen or has gained weight in her face. Telling her she looks too small only makes her worry that she is somehow starving her baby. Making such comments invite her to critique your physical appearance and you may not act offended. The only acceptable comment on appearance is 'You look fabulous!'.

6) By the time we are 20-30 years old, most of us have picked up on the fact that the summer is hot. We are hot every summer when we are not pregnant. We don't need you to point out that we will be miserably hot before the baby comes.

7) There is a reason that tickets to L&D are not yet sold on Ticket master. Childbirth is actually not a public event. It may sound crazy, but some women really do not relish the idea of their mother, MIL or a host of other family members seeing their bare butt and genitals. Also, some people simply feel like the birth of their child is a private and emotional moment to be shared only by the parents.

8) Like everything else is life, unless you receive an invitation, you are NOT invited. This includes doctor appointments, ultrasounds, labor, delivery, the hospital and the parents' home. You do not decide if you will be there for the birth or if you will move in with the new parents to 'help out'. If your assistance is desired, rest assured that you will be asked for it.

9) If you are asked to help after the birth, this means you should clean up the house, help with cooking meals, and generally stay out of the way. Holding the baby more than the parents, interfering with breastfeeding and sleeping schedules and making a woman who is still leaking fluid from multiple locations lift a finger in housework is not helping.

10) The only people entitled to time with the baby are the parents. Whether they choose to have you at the hospital for the birth or ask for you to wait three weeks to visit, appreciate that you are being given the privilege of seeing their child.

***Complaining or showing disappointment only encourages the parents to include you less.***

Sincerely, 

All pregnant ladies in the world!

 

Achievement in 2012

In every year coming in.. We will always hope to be better and be the best...

I also realize that I have hopes that I may reach, I don't want to fantasize too much that I am willing to have something that impossible to get them.

Glance I read "Today about" as the same what I have thought for this year are:

Eating Better

To organize good food for my healthy body and mind.. 

I might to have some listings of menu that I want to prepare for family's menu which are good for me, hubby and kids and also can maintain the cheap and nutrient recipe of course, because as mom I also have to contribute such habit to family so we can at least have a spare for holiday.. Hopes :)

I think I also need a little bit looking up to my neighbor's recipes ^^ instead of searching it at the searching engine. Just for taking time to get the greatest combination recipes and ideas.. hmmm.. ;)

Reading more

I still have many outstanding books to be read, but just can't get much time to read it.

I think I have to be manageable to diversify the time so I have a lot of time to read and more concentrate in reading of any books

Procrastination less

The root of delay of achievement is procrastination.

I believe as the human being, we have this habit and really difficult to maintain it sometimes.

I understand that moody also influence our willing to do or not do the goals, but need more spirit to avoid such a bad habit.

Be more religious

I like to become more religious, I found peaceful minded in this activity. 

Being religious is good to make us to be humble, patient, and down to earth minded,

so all the arrogance, ignorance, rudeness, jealousy, selfish and others negative behaves, hope can be maintained well. Inshaallah :)

Japanese language learning target

As working in Japanese Company, I am motivated to be fluent in this language, I believe that I will have many advantages if I can speak and write well in Japanese. But I realize that learning Japanese is not such a learning English that we had been learning it from schools and also many media helped us in improve it.

But I believe that someday I can speak a little bit Japanese to my manager and it is not just greeting as I did before.. Ganbatte ne!

More frequently to update this blog

Making a blog is a good place to practice our writing skill, to be more confident in express the idea and just for fun :) sometimes. I realize that am not a good writer and I am not a good English Writer, as my willing to make my own blog to share what is in my mind and to collect few or many useful information from others blog or website, so it can be useful for me or others, and I also committed that mostly language on this blog I will write it in English, may be mainly for practicing my English in writing and I also wanted to spread the story of mine if someone other than my country willing to read my story so they can understand it well, cause English is an International Language. Are you agree :)

Okay, I think that is for all my target which is crossing in my  mind.. hopefully I can be working with them well.. 

Happy New Year 2012...^__^

Today is the first day of January 2012..

Today is Sunday..

Today is sunny day...

I am not going anywhere...

I am spending my time with my family at home today...

I am cooking, washing, ironing, cleaning... etc..etc...

Wow, it looks that I do the things as usual...

But there is still in my mind that I have many wishes and more wishes.. for upcoming days in this year...

Being good to the great...Amiin..

Happy New Year 2012... :)